Personally, I love to ease into this time of year. You probably thought I’d be encouraging you to hit the ground running and get those resolutions, but to make good choices means exactly that – making a choice. And I choose to begin the year with solutions, not resolutions.
The dictionary defines resolution as: “a firm decision to do or not do something” and solution as: “a means of solving a problem or dealing with a difficult situation.”
When we decide to solve a problem, we’re addressing the underlying issues. When we just follow a list of dos and don’ts with no reasoning behind it, we really have no accountability or ownership of what that change means to us.
I see that when my clients understand why they are making some changes to solve a problem they have, they feel more accomplishment and the desire to continue finding solutions.
By seeking solutions for our typical New Year targets we can all see more long term results and that feeling of accomplishment.
Let’s look at some typical New Year’s goals, the excuses we make about why we can’t do them, and what our resolutions tend to be:
- I don’t have time to exercise on a consistent basis so I’m going to join a gym. That will force me to exercise.
- I’m much too busy to eat throughout the day so I will join that program with the packaged foods and shakes. That will be easy and I won’t have to think about what to make.
- It’s too hard to get this weight off so I’ll take that miracle pill I’ve heard about. That way I can still eat everything I like.
- It’s too hard to lift weights so I’ll just focus on cardio right now. That way I can get a special New Year’s rate at the gym, take group classes, and get to the weights later.
Now let’s look at some solutions. Notice how this approach shows us the possibilities rather than the impossibilities.
- I’m going to write out my daily schedule and habits and find some time when I can exercise. Maybe a 30-minute brisk walk daily and some yoga classes. Perhaps I can partner up with a friend one day a week to go to a class at the local gym or rec centre.
- If I go to bed a little earlier and wake up earlier I can make a good breakfast. At night I can pack my lunches and get the family involved in our dinnertime meals.
- If it took me a while to gain this weight, I can be happy with losing one or two pounds a week. To be sure I get the weight off in a healthy way, I will seek help from a holistic nutritionist.
I will get my blood work done and make sure I’m doing the right exercise regime for my state of health at this moment. When you haven’t packed a lunch and go to a restaurant instead, rather than berate yourself and say, “Well, there goes that resolution,” find a solution instead. Make the best choice you can at that restaurant – a meal that incorporates a good protein, a low-glycemic carbohydrate and a good fat. Enjoy the meal and move on.